Most people assume that the only way to be abusive is through physical means.
While this is true, there are other forms of abuse including verbal, psychological, and emotional.
Abusive spouses use these tactics in order to control their partners, making them feel helpless and dependent on the abuser.
Let’s face it, there are some spouses who have a hard time controlling their anger. Sometimes they get so angry that they do not know how to deal with the situation, and instead of being honest about what is going on, they choose to lash out at their spouse in an abusive manner.
This type of behavior can be very difficult for both parties involved, because while one person feels hurt by this lashing out, the other party may feel just as hurt by denying that anything is wrong or trying to cover up his/her actions. Let’s talk about some behaviors of these abusive spouses and why it happens.
It is not always easy to recognize an abusive spouse. Abusive spouses come in all shapes and sizes, and they appear like normal people on the outside. They may be very generous and kind to others, but at home, they are manipulative and controlling. When asked about their behavior by outsiders, they will make up excuses for it or blame you for provoking them into such behavior.
You can’t change someone who doesn’t want help; however, if you recognize the signs of abuse, then there are things that you can do to protect yourself from further harm. An abusive spouse will try different tactics over time as a way of gaining power over their partner; here are some examples: isolation, silent treatment, telling you what you should and shouldn’t do, and just plain lying. It’s not always easy to identify an abusive spouse because abusers come in various ways.
If you think you or someone close to you may be experiencing an abusive relationship, it’s important for you to understand how they behave so that you can seek help if necessary.